Dear Sophia: Crushed

Dear Sophia,

The person you’ve had a crush on for a year and a half is now a senior and graduating in a few short months. You are on speaking terms with them, but are too shy to really talk to them about anything and all your conversations are really annoying small talk. You are uncertain if you want them to know how you feel. You don’t know how to flirt. And by you, I mean me. Should I tell them regardless of circumstances or just keep my mouth shut?

Dear Confused,

Have you ever read the book “One Day” by David Nicholls? Or seen the movie with Anne Hathaway? It’s about two people who fall in love as teenagers, but spend decades pretending they’re not because they’re best friends. In the end, they end up together ... but they only have a few years together before she ends up dying in a bicycle accident. So, essentially, they miss out on a lifetime of joy together because they’re scared of being vulnerable.

I’m a big fan of being honest and open no matter what. What’s the worst that could happen? You’re not with her right now, and if she says no, you won’t be with her after. What do you have to lose? Everyone has crushes and feelings for people. The fact that you like her is not embarrassing or something to feel shy about. Plus, she’s leaving soon. If things don’t work out the way you want, then you only have a few more months of dealing with them.

It’s easier said than done, but try not to over-think talking to her or trying to flirt. Remember she’s just a person, who poops and burps just like everyone else. Ask her to coffee – who cares if you like coffee, it’s the lesbian code – and ask her about herself. You’re into her, so you want to get to know her, right? If you’re genuinely interested in her, then just ask questions. Tell yourself it won’t be awkward and it won’t be.

Good luck. You don’t need it, just be your wonderful self.